A little JavaScript or php to get menu selection on Form working correctly.

Ok this should be down right simple since I have all of the code and just need to bring it home (get it finished)... The site I am trying to emulate is this... [login to view URL] my site is [login to view URL] ... my menu doesn't do a couple things that is needed. I need the menu when the parent is dropped to have the bottom menu trigger a null choice that says "My child needs help with..." so that they will then select a choice for the childs help. The choices are there through javascript but that initial command like sylvan learning is not. As well, if that choice is not made an error comes up stating the choice needs to be made. i'm 95% there just need this last part. Thank you.